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10 ways on how to gain confidence after having a baby

My confidence skyrockets when I am pregnant with my daughter. She is a beautiful infant who is still very new to the world, and I am looking forward to all of her special occasions.

However, when she comes along we’re going to have to face some big changes, whether it’s changing schools, moving homes or starting the next chapter of life.

Sometimes the first couple months are tough on us, and when we get back into our daily routine things take longer than they used to.

Dispite the facts that becoming a parent will be challenging there is no reason not to fell confident about yourself.

And this post is for anyone else who has been through this same experience but can offer tips on how to gain confidence after giving birth.

1.) Utelize your smartphone’s camera for selfie!

There is nothing better than getting a glimpse of yourself in the mirror every morning before you are up and ready to go to work or school.

Because you've taken the time to create something wonderful for another person, this can help boost your self-confident

2.) Set Up Social Media Accounts & Post Pictures Of Yourself In Them!

It may seem strange to create social media accounts for your own child at this time, but once you realise the benefits these sites can provide, it may be worthwhile to create a separate account for yourself.

Not only does it feel good at the time it gives you a sense of control over who you know but it also gives you access to other parents around the world who also share content from their babies on the website site.

Or perhaps by creating your own posts, you can demonstrate the type of mother you aspire to be! I use Instagram to tag and share various pictures and videos of my baby, as well as some interesting videos.

Here are some ideas of things to include on your timeline. Facebook, Twitter, YouTube & TikTok are some of the best places to start.

You can even take advantage of Pinterest and Instagram Stories! Here are some other cool features like customizing your feed or adding filters to your photos so they appear unique and aesthetically pleasing.

If you don’t already have one of these websites set it up now.

3.) Read books/videos / watch Youtube tutorials

(I love reading!) Not only is reading good practice for parenting, by learning from others you also improve self-confidence for you and those around you.

Reading is a great way to discover more information than a textbook could.

I found myself enjoying looking online to find out everything I needed to know about certain topics such as body composition, food, mental health, and much more.

By spending time scrolling through instagram and reading more about what was happening around the newsroom I learned how important having a support system can be.

Being able to meet people and build relationships with them during the day and then spend quality time together can make a huge difference!

Even just watching your friends talk about something exciting you’re undertaking can teach you a lot about how to navigate the world.

You can learn all this, thanks to the power of TV! So if you are feeling more insecure about your self-image now than ever before, start to read, watch movies, watch tv shows, or search the web for some helpful tips on parenting.

The internet really knows no limits. Try doing any of these activities over and over again without giving up.

Just remember to always give yourself permission to do the things you enjoy (or even enjoy doing them!).

4.) Practice Yoga, Pilates or Stretching regularly to keep moving

All those little moves done during prenatal yoga are very beneficial!

For example during naptime your baby needs you to move her belly so you need to use your arms to stretch her.

As soon as she’s ready for nap time too. Also a simple push up or cross can be enough to keep her baby smiling all around the house for the rest of the day.

If you are feeling extra sore, try a small movement.

These little movements will keep the baby engaged in her play so she doesn’t have to focus on the movements she’s not interested in! It’s easy, effective and fun!

5.) Reach Out & Spend Time With People Who Matter Most

As you can’t do anything alone during your child’s development, having the ability to see those at your work place who matter most is very useful.

Spending the time with them, talking with them or even meeting with them at their office to discuss a project or ask questions can show your baby you value their input in the area and also help you find out what they think you do wrong, as having this connection means more than simply putting up words and phrases.

6.) Ask Questions About Everything But Your Own Child During Pregnancy

Do you like to wear jeans? What about your favorite musical group? What did you eat tonight? Go beyond your usual list to know exactly what she likes, which things don’t work for you, and the challenges she faces as a mama!

Maybe you ask questions about “things you can’t ask mom about like being fat, crying and pooping” as she is still developing her brain.

This is an amazing chance to learn stuff you never knew about! Plus sometimes asking questions can lead to conversations that are much deeper than any text conversation and open communication with her.

7.) Inform her that we are making great strides together

When observing other women, it is normal for a person to wonder why they were not blessed with children of the same gender or age. Similarly, the same questions frequently arise in the past.

Despite the fact that it is extremely rare for a baby girl to grow up without an older sibling or adult male figure in her family, it can be reassuring to know that you make the most of what you have.

If you find yourself feeling depressed, try visualising yourself as a teenager, wondering why we don't have any daughters yet, and then as a teenager at home in front of the Christmas tree while wearing your pyjamas.

Remember she understands what we’re going through, and that this is because we’re working as hard as anyone can with a tiny human inside of a fully functioning human being!

8.) Stop Worrying When Others Aren’t Doing

Well As long ago as 2016, studies have shown that mothers have an increased risk of depression and anxiety while birthing a child.

Whilst some studies show that breastfeeding mothers have less stress and are happier overall compared to non-breastfeeding mothers and that there are not any differences in how people cope with difficult times in their lives, I personally think this theory is full of misinformation because studies have been created where there are lots of variables at play.

Studies that have been carried out by groups in several countries around the globe including the UK, the US, Australia, Canada, South Africa, Australia/New Zealand and the Philippines. They do note, however, that the primary reason breastmilk is beneficial to its mother is that breastfeeding mothers are typically happy after giving birth..

It helps relieve the loneliness of your baby-less world and makes you feel loved.

The research of Dr. John Rossman who is considered to be one of America’s leading experts on the subject of emotional well-being said that the level of sadness mothers experienced when their babies died outweighed any depression they had experienced when their babies were alive.

He did however state that he couldn’t prove this statement but he wanted it validated by data to support his claims.

Regardless of whether it is true or not this is a very powerful piece of evidence because it gives you a very valuable insight on the relationship between mother and baby.

9) Schedule A Family Emergency Before Everyone Goes To Work

Yes, this is a bit easier said than done and whilst everyone should be prepared for a doctor’s appointment with their GP when everyone goes to work, it’s not nearly as bad as hearing that you should pack a bag and head to hospital immediately where you can have X-rays on your shoulder!

Trust me when I tell you that I hate hearing you say this and it’s not because people shouldn’t go to hospital for anything! I just don’t have the patience for that to begin with.

Instead of rushing you straight to reception as an ambulance, why not schedule a quick one at reception so nobody else has to come up with excuses instead of telling you to hurry down the stairs? Then when you arrive at reception you walk past all the ambulances and have a quick chat with receptionist Mrs. Haggerty then you can book a private room if you like.

Just remember to ask why we’re taking this step and ask as many questions as possible at the beginning so you can prepare properly for whatever it might be.

Asking for an excuse for your baby to be rushed because you have been on maternity leave seems quite childish and immature and I highly doubt you’ll actually tell the whole story back and forth about the situation in any detail.

Get some advice and let your intuition tell you. That way you’re not stressed unnecessarily and you can make sure your baby isn’t left stranded in a cold building somewhere or worse for the poor hospital staff.

10.) Don’t Procrastinate Like My Daughter Does Either

Although as the saying goes “the devil is in the details,” you will undoubtedly have procrastination moments but just put them down and brush yourself off.

If all else fails you can always blame the weather and your stomach. At least you’ll be assured

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